Fair to say most fathers want to meet the needs of their children— want their children to believe to know he’s made them his priority and given them a solid foundation with all the right tools to build their lives upon. And some fathers fail miserably and never show up on day one or they leave after day one hundred having created not only a child but a future more likely to be spent incarcerated or in hour-long weekly sessions on a leather couch, supine. Most fathers stay involved even if the love shared with the mother disintegrates dissolves into a dissolution of marriage that divides like a cell and regenerates into other relationships other marriages that produce renewed hope and happiness. Some fathers devote thousands of days to making sure their children believe the lie that the love which created them has endured the length of their lives— that the cauldron sitting between her parents is full. And a few fathers use their fatherhood to fool a lover into believing the timing will be right as soon as his children are grown and when his children are grown and the time is right the patient lover sees that nobility was never the reason for the delay— that the child was just as used as the lover because some men only know how to pretend everything they do is in the name of love.
I currently live in Greenwood, Indiana. I love to listen to music, books on CD, podcasts or NPR as I work in my studio. My favorite artists are Andrew Wyeth and Edward Hopper. I love poetry, but only the good stuff that isn’t so abstract I can’t understand it. Abstraction better lends itself to visual art, I think. Stephen Dunn is my favorite poet. He’s said just about anything that can be said about the inner workings of the heart and mind. My favorite novel is Atonement by Ian McEwan. My all time favorite band is The Cure. I love science, and anything that relates to how the mind works. I don’t believe in the supernatural. If I could meet anyone in the world, it would be Richard Dawkins or Steven Pinker. If you don’t buy my art or read my poetry, buy one of their books. It will enrich if not change your life. My favorite things to do are hiking, kayaking and camping. My favorite food is so common, I’ll keep you in suspense (It starts with a P). I prefer chocolate to vanilla. Green is my favorite color. I have an aversion to planning or scheduling of any kind, and I live for spontaneous adventures! Telephone conversations make me anxious, and I avoid them at almost all cost. I had a happy childhood. I’m having a pretty fantastic adulthood. I have every intention of seeing my 100th birthday, after which I will happily relinquish my guts to the future of medicine.
Cheers! ~DeMaris
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