In the name of love

Fair to say most fathers
want to meet the needs of their children—
want their children to believe
to know
he’s made them his priority
and given them a solid foundation
with all the right tools to build their lives upon.
And some fathers fail miserably
and never show up on day one
or they leave after day one hundred
having created not only a child
but a future more likely to be spent incarcerated
or in hour-long weekly sessions
on a leather couch, supine.
Most fathers stay involved
even if the love shared with the mother
disintegrates
dissolves into a dissolution of marriage
that divides like a cell
and regenerates into other relationships
other marriages
that produce renewed hope and happiness.
Some fathers devote thousands of days
to making sure their children believe the lie
that the love which created them
has endured the length of their lives—
that the cauldron sitting between her parents
is full.
And a few fathers use their fatherhood
to fool a lover into believing the timing
will be right as soon as his children are grown
and when his children are grown
and the time is right
the patient lover sees that nobility
was never the reason for the delay—
that the child was just as used as the lover
because some men only know
how to pretend
everything they do is in the name of love.

DeMaris
7-2-20

Published by demarisgaunt

I currently live in Greenwood, Indiana. I love to listen to music, books on CD, podcasts or NPR as I work in my studio.  My favorite artists are Andrew Wyeth and Edward Hopper. I love poetry, but only the good stuff that isn’t so abstract I can’t understand it. Abstraction better lends itself to visual art, I think. Stephen Dunn is my favorite poet. He’s said just about anything that can be said about the inner workings of the heart and mind. My favorite novel is Atonement by Ian McEwan. My all time favorite band is The Cure. I love science, and anything that relates to how the mind works. I don’t believe in the supernatural. If I could meet anyone in the world, it would be Richard Dawkins or Steven Pinker. If you don’t buy my art or read my poetry, buy one of their books. It will enrich if not change your life.  My favorite things to do are hiking, kayaking and camping. My favorite food is so common, I’ll keep you in suspense (It starts with a P). I prefer chocolate to vanilla. Green is my favorite color. I have an aversion to planning or scheduling of any kind, and I live for spontaneous adventures! Telephone conversations make me anxious, and I avoid them at almost all cost. I had a happy childhood. I’m having a pretty fantastic adulthood. I have every intention of seeing my 100th birthday, after which I will happily relinquish my guts to the future of medicine. Cheers! ~DeMaris

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